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Re: I'm done not being listened to
Hey @Lucy_21, thank you for sharing this with us here. It's brave to open up about your struggles, and I can hear how frustrating this has been for you. You've mentioned having to ask them to not drink Pepsi because it's one of the things that you can handle, and I can hear how being repeatedly ignored can feel upsetting. The way you feel is completely valid, your struggles are real, and you've done your best to try and be reasonable about this.
Is there a way that you could have some Pepsi that only you can access? Perhaps it's kept in a separate place where they can't get it? If talking to them isn't working, it might need a different approach to resolve this.
At the same time, I'd keep speaking to your mum about this. It sounds like she responded better when you spoke to her, since she starting buying more since then. How would you feel about this? Perhaps she can help you to find another solution? We're here to support you through this
Is there a way that you could have some Pepsi that only you can access? Perhaps it's kept in a separate place where they can't get it? If talking to them isn't working, it might need a different approach to resolve this.
At the same time, I'd keep speaking to your mum about this. It sounds like she responded better when you spoke to her, since she starting buying more since then. How would you feel about this? Perhaps she can help you to find another solution? We're here to support you through this
Azziman
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Re: im needing pelvic surgery 😣
None of what you have said sounds stupid at all, honestly!! I was reading your message and my heart went out to you..
Sound like you are going through a tricky time... well done for making contact with your sister.
I'm wondering if you can make contact with your doc/GP to talk to them about your anxiety, I know they may not be able to change anything but maybe reassurance or a plan for you.
Sound like you are going through a tricky time... well done for making contact with your sister.
I'm wondering if you can make contact with your doc/GP to talk to them about your anxiety, I know they may not be able to change anything but maybe reassurance or a plan for you.
Re: I feel unsure about disclosing my neurodiversity on job applications
Aw thank you so so much @Invisible_me I really appreciate your support right now .
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Amy22
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Re: I feel unsure about disclosing my neurodiversity on job applications
Invisible_me wrote: »I literally know exactly how you feel x1000
Yoy decide and it may be you disclose at different stagrx depending on the role. I sometimes right from start on the application form , others before interview or others after.
So true! We are not a tick box !! I got emoloyeed by a place seemed lije yes, supporting at first had a 121 meeting abd plan out in place for start but then afterwards when it cane to a issue or even the tiniest things I was pulled right down, even if I'd already mentioned it. Ie: was 5min late due to disability, needing information, or just easily altered duties " we can't do that, you do what we say" "why you late for " "oh well thst need of yours is a peoblem then"
After a year I left!! I couldn't out up with it and now glad to found somewhere genuinely supportive!! There will be a place. Remember its important your valued abs supported if your not, they're not worth you!!
Thank you so so much. It's just finding an inclusive employer is very tough right now especially as someone with autism and adhd and I find some companies get scared of employing us because they feel like they may not be that inclusive but they then pretend to be. Im sorry to hear that happened to you as well, that sounds super difficult and tough right now. Things are slightly looking up though for me as I speak as I recently applied for a job with Whsmiths and I had a message the other day from the manager who wants to chat to me about their seasonal role on Friday. This could potentially be it. Ideally I dont really want work in retail, however its experience for my cv and its money and I got to live as well too (my dream job is the tv industry but the jobs there are on a fixed term contract and its not very steady either), this is something to do until I find my foot in the tv and film industry door again
It Is tough I know!! I have autism as well.
Let's hope that goes well for you. Even if it isn't what you like sometimes it's just experience and self esteem wise that you are working somewhere good. Hopefully you'll be able to get your foot into the tv industry soon.
Re: trump winning?
Without letting myself get too into the weeds, if it's helpful to hear from a slightly older person, I've lived through quite a few big political events where people were really worried (lots of big Tory elections, Brexit, Trump's first term). I'm not saying things won't be bad, but the arc of history is long and this specific political event won't be the end y'all. 💚
To maybe give you some faith in humanity, I was looking at some of the election data.
Trump only got 2 million more votes than when he lost in 2020, but Kamala and the Democrats got over 15 million votes less than Biden got in 2020, which is why Kamala got crushed.
So about the same amount of people voted for Trump in 2024 and 2020 - it was just WAY less Democrat voters showed up, which is what tipped the scale so heavily.
It's okay to feel how you feel about it and maybe have a moment of grief and sadness, and maybe think about what it means for the UK, but take care of yourselves too.
To maybe give you some faith in humanity, I was looking at some of the election data.
Trump only got 2 million more votes than when he lost in 2020, but Kamala and the Democrats got over 15 million votes less than Biden got in 2020, which is why Kamala got crushed.
So about the same amount of people voted for Trump in 2024 and 2020 - it was just WAY less Democrat voters showed up, which is what tipped the scale so heavily.
It's okay to feel how you feel about it and maybe have a moment of grief and sadness, and maybe think about what it means for the UK, but take care of yourselves too.
JustV
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Re: Finding My Way Forward
Hey there TheNightmare. I'm a moderator here on the discussions boards and my name is Brianna.
It takes a lot to be able to find a job, even the process of looking for one is in of itself a job. It makes a lot of sense to me that with as slow as it's been coupled with the fact that things haven't gone positively so far that you're feeling negative and it also sounds like you're feeling quite discouraged. Having a job is important obviously, but so is your wellbeing so make sure to take breaks from this job searching process and do things that make you smile or something that you at least enjoy. Spending a lot of time and energy on job searching can be draining so it's important to be able to fill your own cup from time to time. You mentioned having a bit of support, what does that look like? Are you finding it helpful?
In terms of you finding a long term relationship, it is a hard process as we're all just humans looking for connection. You sound like you have a very clear idea of what it is you want which is positive and there are dating apps out there that people have found longer-term more serious relationships such as Hinge or even Tinder. I don't know what method will be most effective for you but I can see that you're more than willing to at least try which is brave.
If you're interested in CBT and counselling, there are some links I've included that might help nudge you in the right direction. Here at The Mix we also offer free counselling up to 8 sessions which might be a good way for you start getting the help you need. You can refer yourself to our counselling team here: https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team/the-mix-counselling-service.
Here is a CBT worksheet that you might find helpful: https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/mental-health-self-help-guides/problem-solving-self-help-guide/
You also mentioned wanting to speak to your GP, here is a website with information that helps you prepare to have those mental health conversations with your GP https://www.docready.org
Struggling to ask for help and take those steps to move forward in your path of healing is so real! But you've already started by making this post, and talking about what's been going on for you. I am definitely rooting for you to get the things you want and need and I hope you keep coming on here to share what's going on with you
It takes a lot to be able to find a job, even the process of looking for one is in of itself a job. It makes a lot of sense to me that with as slow as it's been coupled with the fact that things haven't gone positively so far that you're feeling negative and it also sounds like you're feeling quite discouraged. Having a job is important obviously, but so is your wellbeing so make sure to take breaks from this job searching process and do things that make you smile or something that you at least enjoy. Spending a lot of time and energy on job searching can be draining so it's important to be able to fill your own cup from time to time. You mentioned having a bit of support, what does that look like? Are you finding it helpful?
In terms of you finding a long term relationship, it is a hard process as we're all just humans looking for connection. You sound like you have a very clear idea of what it is you want which is positive and there are dating apps out there that people have found longer-term more serious relationships such as Hinge or even Tinder. I don't know what method will be most effective for you but I can see that you're more than willing to at least try which is brave.
If you're interested in CBT and counselling, there are some links I've included that might help nudge you in the right direction. Here at The Mix we also offer free counselling up to 8 sessions which might be a good way for you start getting the help you need. You can refer yourself to our counselling team here: https://www.themix.org.uk/get-support/speak-to-our-team/the-mix-counselling-service.
Here is a CBT worksheet that you might find helpful: https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/mental-health-self-help-guides/problem-solving-self-help-guide/
You also mentioned wanting to speak to your GP, here is a website with information that helps you prepare to have those mental health conversations with your GP https://www.docready.org
Struggling to ask for help and take those steps to move forward in your path of healing is so real! But you've already started by making this post, and talking about what's been going on for you. I am definitely rooting for you to get the things you want and need and I hope you keep coming on here to share what's going on with you
briannat
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Re: I feel unsure about disclosing my neurodiversity on job applications
I literally know exactly how you feel x1000
Yoy decide and it may be you disclose at different stagrx depending on the role. I sometimes right from start on the application form , others before interview or others after.
So true! We are not a tick box !! I got emoloyeed by a place seemed lije yes, supporting at first had a 121 meeting abd plan out in place for start but then afterwards when it cane to a issue or even the tiniest things I was pulled right down, even if I'd already mentioned it. Ie: was 5min late due to disability, needing information, or just easily altered duties " we can't do that, you do what we say" "why you late for " "oh well thst need of yours is a peoblem then"
After a year I left!! I couldn't out up with it and now glad to found somewhere genuinely supportive!! There will be a place. Remember its important your valued abs supported if your not, they're not worth you!!
Yoy decide and it may be you disclose at different stagrx depending on the role. I sometimes right from start on the application form , others before interview or others after.
So true! We are not a tick box !! I got emoloyeed by a place seemed lije yes, supporting at first had a 121 meeting abd plan out in place for start but then afterwards when it cane to a issue or even the tiniest things I was pulled right down, even if I'd already mentioned it. Ie: was 5min late due to disability, needing information, or just easily altered duties " we can't do that, you do what we say" "why you late for " "oh well thst need of yours is a peoblem then"
After a year I left!! I couldn't out up with it and now glad to found somewhere genuinely supportive!! There will be a place. Remember its important your valued abs supported if your not, they're not worth you!!
Re: My journey in reconnecting with my real family
Just echoing @amy22 's words,
It's so nice to hear that despite how scared you were that you pushed yourself and reconnected with your family and it's great to hear that you got support with reaching out to them. We're all super proud of you its so lovely that you're sharing your journey with us here
It's so nice to hear that despite how scared you were that you pushed yourself and reconnected with your family and it's great to hear that you got support with reaching out to them. We're all super proud of you its so lovely that you're sharing your journey with us here
Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
I know exactly how you feel with friends I struggle to make friends as I have autisum but I started a new club which is grace house about 2 year ago and made friends just by being a youth worker and joining in with youth and go out to the pictures do arts and crafts going to see shows I love it so you never to late to go out their and make new friends and start a club it’s the best thing you make new friends and loads of new places and adventures
Re: When the main reason that makes men think you’re ugly is the ✨fucking weather✨ 🙃
No matter what you look like or say some people are just nasty just be your self don’t let it defeat you your beutiful in your own way